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If you had have asked me 15, 10, or even 2 years ago, if I believed in the ‘your lover should be your best friend’ notion, you would have received a vehement ‘NO!’ Put simply, I believed that lovers should be lovers, and best friends should be best friends. I didn’t buy into the ‘I married my best friend’ tradition; I had my incredibly gorgeous and supportive besties and I believed in marrying for love alone.
Oh my naive heart .... About MANY things, my heart has been wrong, we won’t go into all of that, but I truly do need to point out one of the biggest realisations of my life :
You should most definitely spend your life growing old with and in love with your best friend. The person who makes you smile and laugh every day. The one who wipes your tears, even if - especially if - they may have created them. That special someone who gets your jokes and your quirks, who has your back both when you are with them, and when you’re not. A lover that has the ability to raise your temperature and your mind, who you turn to for comfort and solace, and know that if they need you more, you’re willing and able. The 80 to your 20, and your 0 to 100 🔥😉 That one soul who you laugh deliriously with into the early hours of the morning and take long drives with, while belting out your favourite songs. The one who finishes your sentences and knows all the little things that make you happy and ensures that those things are their priority, because they want to see you smile. Your happy IS their happy.
It’s taken me a long time to realise that falling in love, and being each other’s best friend is paramount to the success of a long lasting relationship. To have your lover be the same person you send memes to, the same person you can’t wait to roll your eyes with about a co-worker with, that, all of this, is the reason that so many people say that they’re glad they married their best friend. That their lives are enriched because their lovers ARE their best friends. And together as a team, they have it all.
Well, if you’ve read this far, you deserve a medal 🏅 lol. Apparently I need to continue this in the comments .... 🤭