Dear friends, I need you to show up.
I remember before kids, I was trying to make friends at my new workplace. I felt like I was walking into a group of already established, strong connections and I thought "I want to be part of this!"
Chatting with some of the girls, we'd all expressed a mutual interest in books and book genres. LET'S START A BOOK CLUB! I tossed the idea out there and everyone seemed stoked about it. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
I left early that Friday to buy supplies and tidy my house up. I remember feeling so grown up. No more keggers for me. This was a book club. I was so sophisticated and cultured now. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
You guys, no one showed up. Not one of the eight or so I was expecting. These women saw me leave work early to prep for this party. They told me they'd be there. And then? No one. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
We are all so busy and I know life gets crazy, but the first rule of friends club is and always will be -- you need to show up. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
And yes, it's easier said than done. I'm not talking about forming a book club and preparing pigs in a blanket and three different types of fancy cheese from Costco (but if I was, you should still SHOW UP, right???)
I'm talking about checking in every so often with a text or (gasp) a call. Trying to put a coffee date on the calendar every few months. Sending a personal note with your Christmas card that says "I've been thinking about you and I love you."
This is what's missing in so many of our friendships and it's simple, in the most complicated, I've-got-two-kids-and-a-job-and-my-time-is-limited, kind of way. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Friends show up. That's it! Just show up. .
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