You need boundaries and standards. It’s not selfish, it’s not too much, it’s not high maintenance.. it’s self respect! It’s self love! If people wanna be in your life they’ve gotta be bringing something to the table. This isn’t about money or success or gifts or anything of that nature. It’s about going in the same direction. Sharing the same morals, values and beliefs. You can’t have team work if there’s a disconnect in what you both want out of life. So decide what you want and need in connections and then set that standard by BEING those very things within yourself, and then demand that others meet that standard or fall out of your life.