Behaviour disordered children have usually already had the most intense and frequent punishments. And any “progress” has been short term or came at the cost of losing trust. .
We can devise all kinds of management plans to get compliance. For a time. And at a cost.
But the more frightening a child’s behaviour, the more likely they are themselves frightened. .
Anger isn’t the problem. It’s their fight or flight or freeze alert system that is in overdrive, hyper vigilant to the slightest perceived provocation. .
Only relationships, built over time, with mutual trust and respect, can heal that. Trauma needs treatment for the pain, not punishment for showing the pain.